HER and OkCupid. Our pick for the best app specifically for lesbians is HER: The fact that it's made by queer women for queer women is a breath of fresh air, and knowing that men showing up is next to impossible is so nice. Not only can you find local matches that you never knew existed, but you can also get involved in local LGBTQ events, read LGBTQ news, and make friends through its social-media like feed. You can obviously find dates, but the lack of pressure to hook up or find a girlfriend is super inviting.
Our pick for the best mainstream app is OkCupid: Okay, we're totally biased because of their sweet ad campaigns how can you not be? The site's in-depth questions and matching strategies push for lasting connections, and being one of the first dating sites ever, its trusted name brings along a massive lesbian following and tons of options. A good number of lesbian dating sites and apps do exist, but most face the same issues: They're either made to sexualize lesbians and aren't really for relationships at all, or it's way too easy for guys to sign up and pretend to be women.
Creeps are drawn to porn-ish names like Pink Flirt and Pink Couch, so if you're wondering why we left most of the so-called female only apps out, that's why.
Obviously, there will be some discrepancies between apps that are specifically for queer women and mainstream apps that have options for queer women, but are open to straight people and men as well. We've picked out the best from each category and give an overall consensus of what they're good for, because dating apps are clearly not a one-size-fits-all thing. Remember that all can be used to find serious relationships, and all can be used to find hookups. We're just saying what they're best for.
Happy ice breaking. Language is inclusive, they aren't advertised to be like the typical male fantasy, and they'll help you widen your dating pool beyond the circles you already know IRL. These are the Tinders , Bumbles , and other mainstream dating apps of the world that started out for straight folks but that have made surprisingly large strides in being successful resources for queer women or men, for that matter too. There's obviously still a lot of work to do when it comes to inclusivity, but we're pretty proud of how far the online dating market has come in the past few years.
They still have their flaws, but it's a step in the right direction. We're excited to see how dating apps for women, transwomen, lesbians, and nonbinary people continue to evolve in years to come. After all, love is love.
We're using cookies to improve your experience. Click Here to find out more. Like Follow Follow. The Good. HER HER is the award-winning mix of dating and social media that lets you meet girls you know are girls. Free See Details. The gist: Apps like Tinder and Bumble are technically for all sexual orientations — so why are they still giving you male matches when you've specified you only want women? Swiping through all of that is way too much work, and it shouldn't have to be like that.
Claiming to the be the app that "introduces you to every lesbian you've ever wanted to meet," HER is the award-winning mix of dating and social media that lets you meet girls you know are girls, as it requires a Facebook for signup and is solely for lesbian, bisexual, and queer women. It was also created by queer women, for queer women, which is glorious.
The setup: HER has a minimalist layout that encourages users to, you know, talk to each other rather than just creeping. While more intense dating sites will have you fill out a huge questionnaire, HER only asks for the bare minimum so that if you want to find out more about a person, you'll have to ask.
Instead of seeing one profile at a time and swiping, you'll be shown a collage of nearby women and can start playing from there. But don't worry, they give tips for that. Side note: We totally encourage you to read Sheets' whole story. Why it works: Aside from the obvious reason that it's one of the only dating apps specifically for lesbians and queer women without being some gross sexualized thing?
Plenty of Fish Plenty of Fish has a large user base and its questionnaires help you find someone you'll have chemistry with, but it's not bisexual-friendly. Plenty of Fish is one of the older sites out there, and its aesthetic honestly looks like it hasn't been updated since OkCupid With its matching technology and large dating pool, OkCupid is great for queer women. Seeing how it's so popular, whatever it's doing must be working. Even if you have your preferences set to women only, guys are still going to be thrown into your mix and there are some weird men on Tinder.
Requiring Facebook to register solves one of the main issues that comes along with online dating as a lesbian: Desperate men posing as women, attempting to do Eliminating fake and scammer profiles that often pop up on hookup apps gives a heightened sense of security, and makes HER much more inviting to women who may have shied away before. Even if you're not looking for a relationship, HER is just a great place to make friends in your area if you are at capacity with straight friends. Another refreshing aspect is that HER is so much more than a hookup app, and doesn't even put on the pressure to find a romantic partner.
The bad news: We have seen a few women mention that HER's reputation for being a "relationship app" has gotten so overbearing that it feels like your feed is just full of women complaining about being single. But this is probably dependent on your location, and we think that the good totally outweighs the bad here. The cost: HER is free to download and there are no in-app purchases. Fem Fem stands out by encouraging users to submit video, so you're better protected from catfishing.
Being catfished is one of the most common horror stories across all online dating platforms, but is especially an issue for lesbians with creepy men lurking and trying to pass as women. No thanks. While requiring a Facebook approval is one way to combat the straight men, another way is to require a video instead of pictures, which is the unique route that Fem takes. Fem encourages users to introduce themselves with video profiles as way to be personal right off the bat and you'll get to hear their voice before meeting IRL, which is a nice touch.
Some of us are too shy for videos raises hand , so Fem doesn't require it, and you can just post your best selfies instead. As of now, it's pretty foolproof.
Aside from the video aspect, Fem has most of the average features that you'd expect on any dating app and operates about the same, so there's no weird learning curve. The videos. Fem also has a unique tool called "Rooms" where users can chat in a variety of different groups, send selfies, or talk about some deep shit. Like, I've never had the experience of not having [them]… I always think about that because I can't [imagine] what that would have been like to move to go to college or move somewhere new and just meet people in person.
As long as I've been dating, there have been dating apps, and that's totally informed how I interact with people. I remember one time, when I was about 10 or 11 years old, my brother had forgotten to log out of his AOL account on my family's desktop computer. He had wisely given himself our family's master account, you see, meaning that he had zero parental controls restricting his web access. Knowing this, I began frantically typing in a bunch of super literal, super sexy website names like "dicks dot com" only to be met with inaccessible paywall after inaccessible paywall plastered with the waxed and tan bodies of men doing their best Queer as Folk cosplay.
You won't be surprised to hear that I—a boy who thought "dicks dot com" would be the hot website to check out—forgot to clear my browsing history before logging out of my older brother's AOL account. And two years before that traumatic minute car ride, most of which I seem to have blocked out of my memory, I came out on AIM to a fictional user my friends had created to catfish secrets out of me.
This was in , so we wouldn't have used the word "catfish" at the time. Later that summer, I met up with a guy from the internet for the first time.
We found each other on a website called Gaia Online. That fact has always blown my mind. Unlike the sites I'd later use to date and hook up with people, like PlanetOut, Gay. It was a social networking community for pubescent anime freaks who'd outgrown Neopets, where they could play games, earn coins, and buy new outfits for their JRPG-derivative character sprites.
Something about my sprite's pixellated angel wings and matching teal tuxedo must have caught this slightly older teenager's eye, and we started DMing. Eventually, we learned that we both lived in the same small Central Massachusetts suburb and decided to meet up. We sat in absolute silence for about 45 minutes as we painstakingly chewed our respective meals. Three months later, I went down on a classmate after he invited me over to his place over AIM. Mate1 is closing it's doors in Europe as of May 25th, We've been very grateful to come along with you on your journey to find that special someone over the last 15 years and we hope to see you again soon!
All Mate1 profiles registered in the EU prior to May 25th, will be removed from the service and your data will either be removed completely or pseudonymized in our databases. Any subsequent attempts to access Mate1. No new European profiles can be registered on the service as of May 21st,